How Facebook Causes Depression

Posted by Chris on Apr 11, 2011 in Life |

I gave up Facebook for Lent.  Many people ask how I could not be on Facebook since I’m posting there almost every day.  Two reasons:

1) My blog, www.chrismorton.info, autoposts to Twitter and Facebook.

2) I’ve been able to use the time this has freed up to be more creative, and write more, thereby producing more of said autoposts.

Besides being more creative, spending less time on Facebook has helped with the sense of depression I often experience.  I’m not sure if there’s any scientific studies to back this up, but anecdotally, I can think of three ways social networking darkens my days.

First, there is the constant reminders of relationships you don’t have.  There’s the old friends you’ve lost touch with and the girls that got away.  They are constant reminders of brighter days and deep friendships that are now distant memories.  It makes me fantasize of what life would have been like if I hadn’t moved, had been bold enough to ask someone out or had got the job I wanted.

Second, there is a sense of social isolation.  Reading one’s Newsfeed is much like being in a room full of people, and having no one who will talk to you.  It seems like everyone else is so happy and engaged.  It seems like you are invisible to them.

Thirdly it’s just a waste of time.  Spending hours reading the status updates of people I barely know or looking at pictures of parties I didn’t go to keeps me from eating with friends, writing in my journal, working on my homework or making myself or my world a better place.

This Lenten break from Facebook has been really good thing. I’m trying to figure out how I’ll limit my usage after Resurrection Day.  Social media is a tool, but I’ve been using it like a drug.  Lent has helped me see that this is a dangerous addiction.

What about you?  How do you use Facebook and other social media?  Do you feel like it has improved your relationships? How have you limited its affect on your non-digital life?
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  • avi

    IMHO, I think that auto posting to FB counts against a pledge to give it up. Seems like removing your presence entirely seems more aligned with what giving up FB would mean.

  • Jac

    This hypothesis of yours makes complete sense to me. I, in fact, feel exactly the same way about Facebook nine times out of ten. Glad to know there is someone else that gets that weird feeling inside.

    That being said, we need to go grab a bite sometime soon. In fact… I may call you right… now. ;p

  • Vick

    This is the very same experience I’ve been having, at least 85% of the time. When I log on to facebook, the first thing I look for are updates from other people, messages in my inbox, and who replied to what. On different days you get different results, however on a day-to-day basis these notifications don’t have much of a psychological impact. But when I fail to receive updates like these, and over an extended period of time, I try not to let myself feel what my psyche presents as apparent. I believe it’s natural human intuition to want to feel accepted, and as a part of the whole, or at least as an important part of someone else’s life. And we constantly remind ourselves that it’s perfectly fine if we do not have these things, but are we really being honest with ourselves?

    Facebook at its best is a place for people to represent themselves at their best, much like a social pageant. Those who appeal well to an audience are accepted, their confidence is boosted or sustained, and the social system picks them up from there. Those that aren’t as appealing or lack appeal towards a group of people, or another individual, end up losing confidence, and get lost in finding their place among people.

    It’s just the same as natural society, except when online it’s entirely mental.

  • http://profiles.google.com/ollwen.jones Samuel jones

    My wife just said something about facebook making her depressed TWO DAYS ago. Forwarding.

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