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Best known for defining the field of Emotional Intelligence, Daniel Goleman has a passion for developing a scientific understanding of the links between the link between the body, mind, and skills.  He established himself as a writer over many years at the New York Times, and he taught for some time at Case Western University.  Goleman’s thesis is that a leader’s role is unavoidably “primal,” that is, inseparable from the use of emotions and social skills to motivate others.  Therefore, a successful leader is one who resonates with other’s emotions, and inspires them to resonate with him/her.

Goleman explores the interplay of emotional intelligence in leaders in three sections:

The Power of Emotional Intelligence

The initial section on what Emotional Intelligence is and how it play out in the leadership context.  He explains the physiological process of resonance, and how humans brains are interacting when a leader draws others into their way of thinking.  While some concepts may seem common sense (“Good Moods, Good Work”), this scientific point of view leads credence to simple ideas often ignored.

Making Leaders

Since emotions are so important, it follows naturally that self-awareness would be a key feature of one’s own emotions.  Goleman explains his concept of “CEO disease”, where leaders find themselves within systems where they cannot be questioned.  He goes on to make a care of nature over nuture, that systems of feedback and skills of empathy can be learned.  An important key to this is the development of an “ideal self”, that is, an understanding of the type person the leader wants to be.

Building Emotionally Intelligent Organizations

The book ends with a discussion of how the success of a team is dependent on emotional intelligence.  A leader who has a firm grasp of their own emotions is able to help teams develop a firm grasp of the reality of the situationand the emotional facts that they bring to the table.  Goleman explains how organizations require different types of leaders in different stages, and that a leader must know which stage they are in, and emote accordingly.

Primal leadership is a fascinating study, and the most applicable of Goleman’s works.  While much of what he strives to show with science could be arrived at by common sense, his explanations provide framework and inspiration.  The biggest takeaway for me has been the idea of articulating my ideal self.  I have been afraid to say such things because of past difficulties and failures.  However, I found his argument powerful.  It is much more than the classic “you can’t hit a target you’re not aiming for.”  It shows how mastering your emotions and relationships are inseparable from how you see your self.

Primal Leadership is available in print & digital here.

Today I Am 30.

Chris —  April 3, 2012

Today is my 30th birthday. I woke up late rushed to work. Did my job. I marked the day with lots of hugs from co-workers, happy hour with my church community, and phone calls to family. It was a good day.

At my most cynical, I find myself angry and confused. When I was younger, I followed the path reccommended by family and the churches I grew up in. But I felt burned by that path, and with not a little thrill-seeking and self-righteousness, attempted to carve out another one. I threw myself into ministry and missions and tried to live out my faith. At my most cynical, I look at these seasons and angrily wonder what I have to show for it.

At my most idealistic, I have an abiding faith that I am exactly where God wants me. Through prayer and therapy and the patience of dear friends, I’ve worked through some baggage and found silver linings of many clouds. I have lived a life with a fair share of adventure and risk, and have the scars to prove it. These days, I live in a city I love, am learning from an awesome graduate program and serve with an amazingly incarnational church. At my most idealistic, I’ll grin, look you in the eye, and tell you I wouldn’t have it any other way.

My twenties have constantly vaccilated between these two extremes, often in the same day. I have high hopes that in my 30s I’ll grow in my idealism, take more risks and come closer to the man God wants me to be. I have no plans to abandon my cynicism either. Instead I pray that God shapes it toward something less bitter, and more akin to wisdom and prophecy.

Simply put: 20s have been fun, but I banking on 30s only getting better.

I blame Donald Miller for the most dangerous thing I’ve ever done in a car. During my first semester I made a weekly two hour drive from my undergrad in Searcy, Arkansas to a small seminary in Memphis.  A friend of mine had given me a copy a then unknown paperback memoir named Blue Like Jazz I only had a few chapters left and I couldn’t put it down. I held the book on my steering wheel, and did my best to split my attention between the page and the road as I read the last few pages.

Reading Blue Like Jazz for the first time was like getting a big hug and being told “no, you aren’t crazy.”  There were other people in the world struggling with genuine desire to follow Christ in spite of the hypocrisy of their church traditions.  The book helped me to verbalize my desire to help lead urban, post-Christendom churches.  It’s probably a part of why I chose to move to Austin.

I was lucky enough to see a premier of the movie version of Blue Like Jazz during last week’s SXSW. Despite the fact that the movie suffers from the lack of budget and writing expertise that any indie films does, it captures the honesty and hopefulness that made the book a quick classic.

The film features strong performances from familiar faces, and powerfully captures the intellectualism, natural beauty and post-Christendom baggage of cities like Portland.  The fact that plot and characters could be stronger does not take away from a few powerful scenes.  The scene where the main character Don explains to his love interest Penney that her honest passion for justice “makes everyone around her feel like shit,” portrays the awkwardness many feel when they engage with Christians.  Another scene has Don cuddling, cajoling and comforting his broken hearted lesbian best friend.  And of course, there is a confession booth scene, which, despite some unavoidable cheesiness, captures the apologetically apologetic heart of the book.

Blue Like Jazz isn’t destined to win any Oscars.  It’s mainly a nod to the fans an experiment for the writers.  That being said, it should also be  required viewing for American Christians learning to live in a world where they are a minority.

Is there any reason to believe that Jesus would want you to vote?

This seems to be the critical question that American Christians have overlooked.  The conversation has primarily been based on the belief that Jesus would vote, and he would either vote democratic or republican.  But is this based in theology or patriotic tradition?

Jesus taught that his followers should subvert the military of their government by going above and beyond when the military enforced labor on them.  His primary sparring partners were Pharisees, Sadducees and the Sanhedrin whose offices were often both religious and political.  He referred to King Herod as a fox.  He questioned the authority of Pilate, and thereby, the Roman government.

For the next ten month the news, air waves, and social media feeds are going to be focused on the Presidential election.  Both sides will do everything they can to garner the affection of segments of the population, especially those with religious affiliation.  Conversations will take place at work, at bars, coffee shops and on-line.  People will expect you to pick a side.

The most important thing Christians can do this election year is decide what they trust in: is it the powers of government?  Business? Media? Military?  Themselves? Or is it in the kingdom of God?

And if the power is in the kingdom of God, how does that effect how we will live for the next 10 months?

What Will 2012 be About?

Chris —  December 26, 2011

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What will 2012 be all about?  It’s a more important question than you might think.

As I approached 2010, I had this epiphany that I my year was not going to be about accomplishing my great life goals.  Instead, I decided to focus on a few small things that I knew I would be able to well.  So I aimed for those dreams that you never really get around to, the “bucket list” kind of things.  I set twelve goals, and used this blog as a means for enforcing accountability.  I did things like run a marathon and pay off all of my debt.  It was a very difficult year, but I’m proud of it.

For some reason, I didn’t approach 2011 with the same attitude.  Maybe I was just tired.  Maybe I felt like I had accomplished enough and didn’t need to try.  Maybe I was more concerned about maintenance than accomplishment.  2011 was mainly about riding my bicycle and doing well in graduate school and surviving the summer heat.  The end result was a good year, but not one I look back with the same kind of pride I have about 2010.

Perhaps the difference is that early on I decided what 2010 was going to be about.  I made some goals, and a plan to accomplish them.  The end result was that I did some cool things, specific, that I can point to.

I want to have more years like that.  I want you to as well.

So now is the time to decide: What will 2012 be all about?