Posted by Chris on Apr 9, 2010 in
Church,
God,
Life 
Hard to believe, ladies, but I’m still single. Good looking blogger like me, crazy, right?
It’s easy to start moping. Our culture is a pretty lonely place, and we assume that if we found the right person we’d have all that we long for. It doesn’t help that churches tend to aim at couples and families. We throw ourselves in our jobs, or pick up a hobby or drink a lot.
This has been rightly called “the selfish years,” a time for you to do your thing and establish who you are. Which makes a lot of sense to me, except for when I read 1 Corinthians 7. Paul, the most famous of all single Christ followers thought that being single was the best possible option. Without a spouse and children, a single person can focus solely on kingdom goals.
It feels like I have been waiting around for my life to begin. In my down time, I get caught up in my career and relational failures, or ignore them by going to a party or watching Hulu. If I told Paul this, he would read me a laundry list of hurting people in my community, homeless people in my city and entire people groups who know nothing about Jesus.
Still single? Good. There’s a lot of work to do.
How do you navigate the single life? What examples have you seen of people devoting that season to God?
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Tags: kingdom of God, Singleness
Posted by Chris on Mar 20, 2009 in
Culture,
Life 
An Excuse
Sitting across a room-a church sanctuary or a crowded bar-and you can help but stare at her beguiling smile.
Scour the room for an excuse to initiate conversation. Her shirt? Never heard that band… Her drink? Don’t like beer… The book she’s reading? You don’t read Jane Austen…
You can’t walk up and say, “Hi, my name’s Chris. I think you have beautiful eyes, and if I didn’t find a way to come over here find out a little more about yourself, I’d be up all night regretting it.”
In High School and College you had no choice but to rub shoulders with people every day. Now you’re on your own. Life outside the cubicle is an awkward game of forcing yourself into social circles to make new, shallow relationships. Any bonding happens over alcohol, because you don’t have time for anything else. Your only hope is to come up with an excuse.
You rack your brain trying to come up with the courage to say something that doesn’t sound like the lame pick up line it really is. She touches the hand of some other guy who made her laugh. Or she leaves. You order another drink, and wish you’d come up with an excuse.
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Tags: bar scene, Girls, Loneliness, Pick-up lines, Relationships, Single, Singleness
Hard to believe, ladies, but I’m still single. Good looking blogger like me, crazy, right?